Make This Your One Goal for 2018

Could I even call myself a blogger if I didn’t write a post about New Years Resolutions and goal setting?

It’s that time of year when everyone is talking about what they want to achieve in the new year. Whether it be: lose weight, get a new job, start a business, be kind, move overseas, take more risks?

What are you thinking of for your goals? Well, I’ve got a suggestion that I’d like you all to consider. How ’bout this year you just set one big goal for yourself – to work on your mind and your mindset?

The one big thing I’ve learnt over the past three years of working on my own mental health and mindset is that it is the key to everything. If you can get your mind right and your outlook right, then everything else becomes easier. It doesn’t mean you won’t experience difficult things, but what it does mean is that you’ll be able to cope better. As I’ve said in a previous post, it’s all about how we respond to what happens to us, not what happens to us.

So rather than setting out a list of 20, possibly unachievable, grand goals to change your life, why not just focus on getting your mind right. Make that your goal. If you think your mental health is pretty good, why not aim to make it even better? Maybe you can start meditating, or journaling, or getting more sleep, or volunteering, or spending more time off your gadgets, practicing being mindful? There are a whole range of things that you can do to work on your mental health and I’m going to help by showing you a fe things that have helped me in more detail.  My first 6 blog posts this year will be a series on some of the things you can do to change your mindset and improve your mental health to help you achieve your one big goal for this year and hopefully start living your best life.

So follow along on my blog posts and I’ll give you some tips on what to do. As always if you think you might be seriously depressed then please do get help, see your doctor, call Lifeline, do something. It may be that you do need medical assistance. Meantime, why not start trying some of these things and see what happens?

As always I’d love to hear your feedback and any thoughts on what helps you with your mindset.

Thanks for reading.

Kx

 

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8 Tips to get through Christmas if it’s not the happiest time for you

I bloody love Christmas, love it. Love the cooking, the decorations, the songs, the eating, the man in the red suit, all of it, just love it. But, it wasn’t always this way, there was a time when Christmas for me was quite miserable and dull and I know Christmas can be a funny stressful time for lot’s of people.

Christmas is meant to be all about families coming together, sharing food, gifts and happy moments, you know, it’s just like the pictures in the Country Style or Women’s Day magazine right? Or all those gorgeous social media shots of celebs having ‘so much fun’! Well, for some people it is like that, but for lot’s of people it can be a really sad, stressful, anxious time. Perhaps a loved one is missing, you can’t stand your mother- in- law,  your husbands family are just really boring or maybe you are alone.  Maybe it’s even a scary time for you – I’ve read that the rates of domestic violence sky rocket at Christmas time as families who are forced to spend the day together end up in brawls over the dinner table.

I remember a time when Christmas wasn’t all that fun for me. The first Christmas after Dad died was pretty horrible. Not only were we all missing Dad terribly but my Auntie had been diagnosed with cancer so everyone was pretty miserable.

Christmas’s became very quiet and pretty dull after Dad died and I missed (and still miss actually) the big Warne Christmas’s with Dad’s side of the family, with 40 odd people for Christmas lunch on the verandah at my Grandparents house in the Mallee. We stopped having Christmas with them after Dad died because it was too hard for Mum.

So for some years Christmas was really quite a sad time. It wasn’t until Tim and I started having Christmas’s together and then having kids that I rediscovered my love for Christmas and now it’s my favourite time of the year.

So how is Christmas for you? If you are someone who doesn’t look forward to Christmas and it’s not a happy time, I get it. Is there an Auntie, a sister, a brother in law, a mother-in-law that you dread having to spend the day with? Is it your first Christmas without a loved one? Are you anxious just at the thought of it? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression and you are dreading a day with so many people around and having to “pretend” everything is OK? It’s OK, you are not alone and I’ve got some tips to help you get through the day and ease the stress.

  1. Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up because you can’t stand your sister/mother/brother-in-law. We all struggle with different relationships in our life and that’s OK. Forgive yourself and accept that we can’t love everyone, all we can do is be as kind as possible and be polite and just get through the day.
  2. Make a plan and give yourself space. If you get anxious at the thought of seeing certain people, then have a plan for the day, tell your partner about it and then break the day/festive period up. Be honest with yourself about what you can cope with. Don’t force yourself to spend 3 nights in a home with your sister-in-law if she shits you to tears. Give yourself a break and just go for lunch or book in to some accomodation close by, but don’t stay there. Only plan to have one meal with them and then organise something with a friend for the other part of the day so you don’t have to spend too much time together. You are far better to do this than to force yourself in to a situation that makes you and probably everyone else around you feel uncomfortable.
  3. Take some time to remember the ones that aren’t there. If it’s your first Christmas without a loved one as it is for us this year without Tim’s Dad, then try to do something different, even go somewhere new. Do something that reminds you of them and acknowledge them and that you’re all missing them and then have a toast to them. Accept that it will be sad without them and let yourself be sad but don’t let it ruin your whole Christmas, think about the good times and be grateful for them.
  4.  If you’re hosting, don’t go overboard. This is probably a case of me really needing to listen to my own advice too!  I just love it all so much and I definitely do have a tendency to go overboard!  Delegation is key. People love to help, it makes them feel useful, so get people involved as much as possible!  It really should be about the family time and the fun not just about the food!
  5. Plan some activities to keep people busy. If you know that there are certain “complex” relationships in your family, not necessarily with you, but maybe your sisters don’t get along or your sister-in-law can’t cope with her mother-in-law then it’s good to be conscious of this and help them out as much as you can. Give people jobs, or plan an outing to the pool, or maybe a tennis match or some boulle after lunch.
  6. Be happy! As much as you can try to be the one that lifts the mood and stays upbeat. We all have the ability to spread the love and the good stuff and help others to have fun too. If we can be happy and up beat then it’s infectious. Think about how you are putting your energy out there on Christmas Day. Are you adding to the fun or bringing people down? If you notice some tension between someone then try to divert the conversation and avoid seating them next to each other!
  7. Be grateful and focus on the positives. It’s very easy to focus on the negatives and what we don’t like about other people or what we don’t like about Christmas or what makes us sad or what we haven’t got but focusing on what we have got, what we are grateful for and what the positive things about our family or life are is really, really powerful and can change our entire outlook. When you wake up on Christmas morning, (if you have time before the kids are running around the house with their Santa sacks) spend 3-5 minutes thinking of 5 things you are grateful for. Even do it Christmas Eve before you go to bed. This is actually something you can try daily and I’ll write a blog about it soon! You would be amazed at the power of feeling grateful. Everyone, no matter what situation they are in can find things to be grateful for.
  8. Take Action! Lastly but most importantly if you are feeling really depressed or suffering with a mental illness or severe anxiety or if you know someone else that isn’t coping  then please do something about it and go and see your Dr or make a call to Lifeline or PANDA and get some help or encourage them to get some help. It’s really important, especially at this time of year.

Well,  good luck for your Christmas Day. I hope it’s fun and lovely and just like the picture in the Country Style Mag, but if it’s not that’s OK. Just do your best to get through it, be kind and try to make it as much fun as possible!

Have you got any tips for getting through Christmas that you’d like to share? I’d love to hear them!

Kx

 

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What Happened in Cohuna Last Week?


This blog post is dedicated to the events that happened in Cohuna at the Hospital last week. I think it’s an issue that everyone needs to understand. Small rural communities are fighting for medical services every day. Tim is on our Local Health Medical Trust in Barham and they have lost two great Doctors this year because of changes higher up and a complete disregard for our community. Last weeks events in Cohuna were no different.  I thought I’d outline what happened last week in Cohuna as far as I understand it and I hope it helps you to understand the difficulties we have in rural communities in securing and maintaining health services. It’s not because of people here in the communities who work tirelessly, it comes from people higher up making il-infomred decisions and something needs to change.

Last week on Monday the 13th of November, for no apparent reason and all of a sudden Dr Barker and the Cohuna hospital staff were told by the administration of Echuca Regional Health, who manage Cohuna Hospital that the decision had been made to bypass all obstetrics services from Cohuna hospital effective immediately. After some negotiation Dr Barker managed to negotiate to keep services open until the Friday at which time the management would visit again to discuss the bypass.

Dr Barker took some time over the course of Monday and Tuesday to investigate what was going on and was unable to find any clear answers as to why this had happened and why so suddenly. The only thing they told him was that he was the sole GP doing obstetrics and so must be tired but they had never discussed this with him.  They also said that Safer Care Victoria had said there were safety concerns. Dr Barker contacted Prof Euan Wallace the head of Safe Care Victoria and he said there were no safety issues being discussed at Cohuna Hospital.

Tuesday night a message went out to community via social media of what was happening and by 11am the next morning there were over 250 people as well as media gathered in the Cohuna Park to hear from Dr Barker. It was pretty incredible. The Primary School turned up with gorgeous little banners, which brought a tear to my eye and I am sure many others and the whole community showed how much they value their hospital and it’s staff. I spoke about how much I love the hospital and the fact that it was pretty terrifying not knowing where we would deliver our babies now, especially seeing as though I’d already had one on the side of the road and it was frightening! This decision had myself and 40 or so other women left with no idea what we were meant to do if we went in to labour. We weren’t booked in to other hospitals, we hadn’t met other doctors and nobody from Echuca Regional Health had contacted us. What were we to do?  I felt it was completely insulting and a complete disregard for the women in our community. I was worried not so much for myself but for all the first time mothers or for those with mental health issues. What if some of the women due to give birth had prenatal depression? How would this effect them?

That night the events were reported on the news and on social media and as well as radio, still with no clear explanation as to what was going on.

For the next few days we were in limbo, not knowing what we should do.

On Friday meetings were scheduled with the Echuca Hospital Administration including the CEO Michael Delahunty and the Director of Medical Services, Dr Howlett and the GPs and hospital staff. Once again the community gathered around in peaceful protest to show their support for the hospital. Following the meetings Dr Barker came out to make a statement and confirmed that the hospital had been placed on bypass for all obstetrics with no real reason given, other than that they felt it was too much for Dr Barker by himself and it was unsafe. So the Doctors had decided that if they were unsafe to complete obstetrics services then they were unsafe to complete all the other far more risky services they complete at the hospital on a daily basis and so they went on strike effective immediately and placed all services on bypass.

News of this once again quickly spread via social media and the community were very upset, but fully supportive of the Doctors decision.

Luckily, this only lasted for 4 hours when we were notified that all hospital services were back up and running, including obstetrics.

So for now, we have a good result, but I fear this is not the end of it and I really question what on earth is going on?  There’s a few things that I really think need further scrutiny and answers.

  • Echuca Regional Health have still given no real justifiable reason as why all this happened and why the sudden decision which placed so many women at greater risk ws made. I feel like it was a complete lack of respect for our community and I can not understand the actions that were taken.
  • I spoke to the Chairman of the Echuca Regional health board last week who is also our newly elected Mayor in the Murray River Shire and he had no idea of what was happening and was not aware of the decision made by the executive management of Echuca Regional Health for Cohuna Hospital which I think is quite strange and really not acceptable.
  • Echuca Regional Health put out a Facebook post on Wednesday the 15th of November which stated that Cohuna District Hospital were urgently seeking an experienced GP obstetrician, which is very strange as the hospital don’t even employ the doctors in Cohuna, Ochre Health do.
  • Another statement on Facebook on Wednesday the 15th by Echuca Regional Health also said that “the departure of a GP obstetrician had left Cohuna with what is, in effect a single GP practitioner maternity service” which Dr Barker says is also incorrect as there had been a GP obstetrician Dr Mina Younan who recently left but he was only accredited for obstetrics under Dr Barker’s supervision. So, Dr Barker had actually been the sole GP practitioner for 15 years. So it makes no sense to all of a sudden decide he was unsafe or too tired, particularly without even talking to him about it.
  • The decision to put the obstetrics on bypass was not taken to the whole board of Cohuna Hospital. Only the Chairperson signed off on it, which is also very strange.

Dr Barker has written an extensive letter to the Ministers and in it he states that we have witnessed a planned, organised, and institutional oppression of rural women and a blatant attack on their safety. I totally agree with this and I am really appalled at what has gone on.

I think last weeks events showed what a small rural community can do when they are under threat and that we will not stand for that sort of treatment. We have a perfectly good, safe, operating hospital which is cherished and highly valued in this community and we will fight for it.

I’m so proud to be part of this community and I’d like to say a big thank you to Dr Barker and all the other Doctors and medical staff in Cohuna for your brilliant display of leadership in the face of such an insulting display by Echuca Regional Health last week. Our community has shown that when people stand up and fight for what they believe in great things can be achieved. This community will not let you take our hospital away and there are some serious questions that still need answers.

I would encourage anyone in our community to write letters to the Health Minister and ask for more answers. We can’t let this go as it will happen again.

Thanks for reading.

Kx

 

 

 

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When will my avocado tree have fruit?

When will my avocado tree produce fruit? 

“I’ve got an avocado tree in the backyard and it still hasn’t produced any fruit. It’s 5 years old now and it looks good but it just doesn’t have any avocados. When can I expect to get fruit from the tree?”

I get asked this question so often and I always feel bad as I know you have been patiently waiting and anticipating the first fruit and I have to answer and say that it’s pretty unlikely that the tree will ever have any fruit.

All our trees come from grafted seedlings, which means a tree that produces well has been grafted on to a rootstock tree which is the base so that you can be guaranteed to get a good producing tree.

It takes about 4-5 years for an avo tree to start producing fruit anyway so it’s certainly not a short term thing even with a proper seedling.

So if you really want to grow your own tree at home, the best thing to do is go to a local garden centre and buy a grafted seedling. People also often say “do I need to have two trees to get fruit, and the answer is no, but if you have two trees you will increase your chances of getting more fruit.

The reason for this is that avocado trees actually have male and female flowers on the same plant. Lots of peopel think that you have to have two trees, a male and a female but this is not the case as a single tree can have both male and femal flowers – how cool is that?! The tree’s flowers can open up as male one day then close that night and open up as a female the next day! The only condition is we need nice warm nights for this to happen – 3 nights over 10C in fact, otherwise the female flowers don’t open. Aren’t trees amazing!

So while it might be fun to grow you own plant form seed inside for a while and watch it grow, it’s not going to be the answer to your avocado spending wows. If you really want to grow some avos, head to the nursery and buy a seedling. It is fun to grow you own plant from seed though in a jar on the window ledge and the kids will love it but just don’t expect it to save you from having to buy avos in the future – just keep buying them from us ;).

I’d love to hear if you’ve had any success growing avocados from seed or if you are still waiting!

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Contributing to your community

This week we have had two awesome events in our community that were organised solely by volunteers and were for the community. It really got me thinking about the importance of community events, belonging, and contributing to our communities and the effect this has on our wellbeing.

I have always been really passionate about community and making a contribution and I love being involved and volunteering. I think this comes from my awesome Grandparents and also my Dad. They were great contributors and really involved in community and set an excellent example for me. My Nen, Gwen Heinz even got an OAM for community service. So, I guess I’ve always been a contributor and get involved with things because I like to be part of something. I like to contribute and I get real joy out of being involved in organising things with other people and in working to create good outcomes for our community. Turns out this is actually really good for your wellbeing!

I’ve written before about how much I love our community and why I think community is so important, but involvement in community is also important for individuals and being involved with community is really good for your individual wellbeing.

There is so much to be gained from sharing experiences with others and from a sense of belonging and also from contributing.

According to Maslow, “humans need to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance among their social groups, regardless whether these groups are large or small. For example, some large social groups may include clubs, co-workers, religious groups, professional organizations, sports teams, and gangs. Some examples of small social connections include family members, intimate partners, mentors, colleagues, and confidants. Humans need to love and be loved – both sexually and non-sexually – by others.[2] Many people become susceptible to lonelinesssocial anxiety, and clinical depression in the absence of this love or belonging element. This need for belonging may overcome the physiological and security needs, depending on the strength of the peer pressure.”

Mind Health Connect also say Connecting with family and friends, volunteering, taking up a hobby or joining a group can help to reduce loneliness. Maintaining wellbeing has a positive effect on your ability to cope with everyday stresses. Feeling part of a community, and developing relationships, can contribute to improved health and wellbeing. http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/being-part-of-a-community

Last Friday we had a fashion parade where a group of local shops got together to showcase their goods and all the funds raised went to cervical cancer and last Saturday was the 10th annual “Red Carpet Evening” which is the major fundraiser for our Local Health Medical Trust which is responsible for our fantastic medical services in Barham.

Both these events were organised completely by volunteers and were all about doing good stuff in our community. I know it’s so much work for the volunteers but I bet they get a real buzz out of being involved with pulling off such great events and afterwards feel a real sense of achievement. I know myself with the volunteer stuff I’ve done, it just makes you feel good. It’s great to be part of something and to give something back.

So what are you part of? Are you involved in any community groups or organising committees? Small towns particularly always need volunteers, it’s what keeps them going. Getting involved in your community is not only good for the community but also for you! One of the first things we do when we are feeling a bit down is isolate ourselves so if that’s you then maybe force yourself to get out and surround yourself with people. Try volunteering with a local group that interests you or get a long and support a local event. You might be amazed how much it will help you as well as others!

I’d love to hear what groups your involved in or own personal experience of contributing and how it may have helped you too!

Kx

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Dealing with Grief and Loss

Sometimes life just gets in the way of life. Things happen that are totally unexpected and you get thrown a curve ball but you’ve also got to just keep going. Life keeps going.  We’ve had that time this year. Where you really wish you could just stop for a bit, have some time to deal with what you need to and then move on. But the business and the farm don’t stop, the trees don’t wait and the avocados must be picked!

Losing Tim’s Dad, brought back a lot of emotions for me and got me thinking a lot about grief and how people deal differently with grief and loss. I feel like most of us have no idea how to do grief. How do we go on when we lose a loved one? Is it OK to just go on?  Have we been sad enough? Have we cried enough? Are we crying too much? Are we mourning in a respectful way? Are we saying the right things to those around us who are also suffering? Did they say the right thing to us? Why did they say that? How will the kids deal with this? Should we tell the kids everything? Should we talk about it? What if people don’t want to talk about? Is there something wrong with not talking? Why aren’t they talking, they must be bottling it up, that’s not healthy.. Are they being too emotional?

So many questions and really the answers are very different for every person. Everyone deals with things differently and everyone needs to grieve differently, but there actually are some road maps and there are things we can put in place if we are open about it and talk about it, to make dealing with grief and loss just a little bit more manageable, because the bottom line is, we have to be able to manage it. It will be different for every person, but the more we can prepare ourselves and build our resilience the easier it can be.

The thing is,  grief and loss are inevitable and we simply must deal with it. We all need to be able to cope with grief and loss of loved ones because no one escapes death. For a long time, not even necessarily in a conscious way I think I thought that I would never be able to be truly happy because I lost my Dad in such a tragic way. I sort of carried it around like my life would never be truly awesome because Dad had died. It was almost like an excuse. But, what I have come to realise is that is not true at all and life can still be amazing and beautiful and incredible and joyess no matter what happens to us. Because it’s not really about what happens to us but how we respond to it that matters.  It was Charles R. Swindle who first said, “Life is 10% is what happens to us and the other 90% is how we respond to it”  Hajaloula! How true is that? Things will happen, difficult things might happen, we get to choose whether we let it ruin us or make us.

But, the thing is, we can’t really make this choice consciously if we don’t have the resilience and the foundation of wellbeing to begin with.  So how do we develop that resilience and wellbeing foundation in the first place? Where are we taught all this? I know for me, I was never taught about dealing with grief or looking after my mental wellbeing, I found my way there myself. I really wish I had been taught this as a child. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was more of a focus on building resilience and wellbeing and learning how to cope in difficult situations in schools?  I am actually working with our local school to try to get this happening by implementing The Smiling Mind course, I highly recommend checking it out.

But what about us adults who have no idea where to start to build our resilience and our wellbeing? I’ve listed some great resources at the end to get you started thinking about it and I highly recommend doing some of your own research to find what you think might work for you.  You can try meditating, journalling, practicing gratitude daily, making sure you have good relationships with loved ones, exercising regularly, getting plenty of sleep and being kind! Even just having a conversation with loved ones about death and what you want out of life is a good place to start.

I was speaking to our community health nurse the other week and she mentioned that she was going to check out a “Death Cafe” and my ears pricked up. She explained a little more and I just thought it sounded so cool. Basically, you can set it up in your town for a time in a cafe or other local hang out and people can go and ask all sorts of questions about death, openly and without any judgement. The concept of the death cafe is also ‘to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives’. So not only talking openly about death but also asking you to think about life! What a wonderful initiative! You can check out more about it here: http://deathcafe.com/what/

Do you have some tips or tools that you use to build your resilience or develop your wellbeing and help you cope when things are tough? Do you think you have a good level of resilience? Do you talk about death with your family and are you living life to the fullest because you know that it is precious?  I’d love to hear.

Thanks for reading and happy living!!!

K x

Links:

The Resilience Project 

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/grief-and-loss

This article form the experience life is fantastic and even has a little quiz at the end so you can test ho resilient you are! 

The 5 Best Ways to Build Resiliency

The Live Happy guys have a whole section devoted to resilience with lots of different articles https://www.livehappy.com/self/resilience

 

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Are you “busy”? Takeaway tips from “Imagine the Possibilities”

Last week I went to the Imagine the Possibilities conference for the third year in a row and it was just as awesome as ever.

I nearly didn’t go because I’ve had such a “busy” week but I just know that I always get so much out of it and come away with fresh ideas and feeling inspired to continue growing and learning. I really wanted to share some of what I took away with you guys as there was just so much gold in what we learnt on the day that I think you will find useful too…

Leonie Canham who is one part of the Splendid Word (co-event organisers) MCs the day and she always congratulates us all on taking the time out to do something for ourselves. It’s such a nice reminder that it is OK to do that. Every year it’s hard to get to Moama for the day, there’s the expense and the organising and the kids and the missed work day, but every year it is so worth it and Leonie is so right, it is crucial to our own wellbeing that we do things like this just for ourselves, because really it benefits everyone around us. Particularly for us women, as we often have so many others to look after –  if we are at our best then it’s good for everyone.

This year we heard from time management guru Kate Christy. Her talk really resonated with me and I wanted to share some of the learnings with you. Kate shared her thoughts on how these days being “busy” is talked about like it’s something to be proud of. She challenged that and said “being busy is not a badge of honour”. I totally agree with this and it was a great feeling for me personally to recognise how far I have come. Three years ago when I first went to this conference, I was “busy”, but I wouldn’t say I was productive.  I would go so far as to say things were a bit out of control. I was rushing everywhere and things were chaotic. Fast forward 3 years and  I don’t really feel “busy” any more, things feel in control and I am not rushing and I am more productive. Now this could be partly because the kids are getting bigger, but I think it’s also because I’ve learnt a lot about how to be more in the moment, how to manage my time better and how to say no. The meditating has also played a big part in this too. I’ve still got a bit of work to do but things are certainly on the improve!

So if you are “busy” and life is hectic and you fell like a rat on a treadmill just racing through the day and things feel out of control,  then rest assured there are things that you can do to take back control today. You don’t even have to meditate if you’re not up for that (yet). But here are the key takeaways and tips I got form Kate’s session that I think will help you too.

THE FOUR  COST LAYERS:

Kate outlined the 4 major factors of time as: Financial Cost, Opportunity cost, Emotional cost and physical cost and discussed how every decision we make has a financial cost and an opportunity cost and then it may also have an emotional or physical cost. As women and mothers we often don’t value the financial cost of our time effectively nor our opportunity costs.

Here’s what Kate outlined as examples of financial costs of where you invest your time:

@$50 an hour:

1hr/day on Facebook = $18250pa

10hrs per week on low value tasks $21000pa

18 hours per week on admin = $37800 pa

30 mins per day on school lunches = $10950 (so Kate said it’s time to get the kids making their own!)


BEING ABLE TO SAY NO

This is crucial to getting your time back. Every time someone asks you to do something you need to check how this will effect your financial cost and emotional cost. If it doesn’t add up for you then say no politely and move on. From my personal experience, once you start saying no it’s very liberating and you definitely get better at it!

FAMILY IS A TEAM SPORT

I love this section from Kate’s presentation. Kate really highlighted that it is totally unreasonable for a women to be doing all the jobs in a household and that husbands and kids should be helping too.

Her key tip was to get out a white board and write up all the jobs that have to be done in the house daily and then also weekly. Get one of the kids to write up the jobs to make it fun and get them involved. Then, you choose which jobs you would like to do first and then ask each family member to nominate which jobs they are willing to do. Don’t tell them what you want them to, get them to choose. This way everyone gets to see how many jobs there are to be done in the house and also take responsibility for their part in helping. You will of course have to remind everyone, every day to do their jobs, but that is better than doing it all yourself!

OUTSOURCE

If you look at any for the jobs that you have to do around the house and think I could pay someone else to do that for less then DO IT. Say you value your time at $50 an hour which is probably conservative, if it takes you four hours to clean the house, that’s $200. Or you could pay a cleaner to clean it for you for $25 an hour and it would take him 3 hours that’s a saving of $125 per week. Wham.

Ironing is another great thing to outsource. But really who irons anyway?!

MUSTS, WANTS DELEGATES, REJECT

We can break activities down in to things that we must do, we want to do, we can delegate to someone else and we can reject. This is a really helpful activity to get you focussed on what is really important today.

PRIORITISE

Instead of having one massive long “to do” list break it down in to small parts. Write the weekly to do list and then pick out 2-3 tasks that you will do each day. There’s a lot of research to show that picking out even just 1 thing to get done a day is way more effective. A guy named Gary Keller has even written a book on the subject:  “The one Thing” 

OK, that is briefly the key things that I took away from Kate’s presentation. If you are keen to learn more and go deeper on this then I highly recommend checking out Kate’s website and maybe getting her book.

I hope you have found this post helpful and you can try some of these time saving tips to get you back your precious time and stop being “busy”. I’d love to hear if you have any time saving tips or tricks that you use too.

If you live in the Echuca Moama area, or even if you don’t, I highly recommend getting along to Imagine the Possibilities next year. It really is a fantastic event that I know you will love too.

Thanks for reading

Kx

 

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How to store your avocados

Ever wondered if you are doing the right thing with your avos when you get them home?

Avocados are funny things when it comes to ripening. You see, avocados don’t ripen until they’re picked! Yep, it is the plucking them off the tree which kicks the ripening process in to gear. So this means ripening is not an exact science. They can take anywhere from 7 to 10 days to ripen and that’s at room temperature. So spare a thought for the poor shop owner next time your buying your avos – it’s REALLY tricky to get them ripe on the shelf for you!

So, say you buy an avo from the supermarket that is still quite firm, (which I highly recommend doing)  you’ll be best to pop it in the fruit bowl so it can continue to ripen naturally. If it’s soft all over and you don’t want to eat it immediately, it’s probably best to pop it in the fridge as that will stop it ripening any further. Remember avocados won’t ripen in the fridge. Only put them in there if they are ripe and you are not ready to eat them. I’m guessing if they’re ripe they won’t last that long!

If you want to try to get it to ripen faster, you can try putting it in a brown paper bag with a banana as the ethylene from the banana acts as a ripening agent and can speed up the process. But, the main thing is really the temperature, keep it warm and it will ripen quicker. But, don’t let it get too hot and humid with no airflow as this can make it go brown and yucky! Tricky right?!

So:

  • The best place for avocados to ripen is in the fruit bowl at room temperature, approx. 20C.
  • If your avo is ripe and you want to stop it ripening further and going brown and yuck- pop it in the fridge.
  • If you want to speed up ripening, keep the avo warm and try putting it in a brown paper bag with a banana.
  • Don’t let your avos get too hot and humid and don’t put them in a place with no airflow.

 

That’s it! If you keep the avos happy they’ll be good for you, not too hot, not too cold, just right.

Do you have any tricks for storing your avocados? We’d love to hear. Please comment below if do!

Hope this was helpful

Katrina x

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Are you flourishing?

You may remember a previous post of mine where I shared my experience of losing my Dad to suicide and my own experience with a bit of depression and anxiety? Well since then I’ve learnt a ton of stuff about how to have good mental health and wellbeing.

I’ve  learnt to meditate and now practice twice every day, I journal, I practice gratitude, I read loads of books, I’ve done courses, I’ve done the Miracle Morning, I do yoga and I exercise regularly and eat loads of avocados (of course, that actually hasn’t changed) and I can honestly say that it really has changed my life.  Well, it hasn’t actually changed my life because my life is really just the same life, but the way I see life is different and that’s the key!  It’s definitely a work in progress and sometimes I I have days were I drop off but I’m always learning and I can honestly say that life is good and I feel great.

All of this has also helped me to get way more focussed on our business and learning new things to do with that rather than being just chaotic and super busy and stuck on a treadmill of craziness. It’s pretty awesome and there is so much stuff I’ve learnt. But –  I remember having no idea where to even start or that there was a whole world out there of helpful mindfulness tools, apps, workshops, books, podcasts, Ted talks etc etc. I didn’t know that there were ways to look after our mind and to exercise it. It’s actually just like physical exercise. There is so much you can do to have a healthy mind. So –  I really want to share what I have learnt with you guys so that you can see what’s out there too!

I must say there really isn’t a one size fits all approach. Some things that have worked for me might work for you and others might not. It’s quite an individual thing, good wellbeing, which makes it tricky, but also fun. I just love trying new things and learning about what’s out there.  So I’ll be adding a wellbeing topic to my blog and it’s going to be all about what I’ve learnt and tips and helpful links or people that have helped me on the path towards flourishing!

Does it all sound a bit weird? I remember I once thought that meditation was just so foreign and not for me as I would never be able to stop my crazy head and all the thoughts, or sit still for 5 minutes! And “gratitude” sounds so, I don’t know, weird or fluffy, but trust me it’s so bloomin’ helpful to practice gratitude. So if you are there going hmm, it all sounds a bit weird to me, I will never be able to meditate, then I hear you. I was there too. But if you’re keen to make some changes, then just start small. Like I said, good mental health is just like good physical health. If you are overweight, crash diets and big ambitions of losing 10kg in a month are unlikely to last and mental health is just the same. There is no quick fix, but it really can be fun and is totally life changing if you’re up for it. And seriously – who doesn’t want to love their life?

So are you flourishing or are you surviving? Martin Seligman explains that the “good life” is pleasant, engaged, meaningful, achieving, and connected. Is that you?

Here’s a couple of things to get you started..

The Power of Vulnerability  – Brene Brown  – Love everything this women puts out there and a good place to start is her amazing TED talk.  I guess it’s what inspires me to share my story and to get stuff out there. By sharing our vulnerabilities and our stories, we help others so much. I know myself I LOVE hearing other people’s stories.If you’ve been wanting to share your story or start a blog or start anything – this will give you a kick start!

Happiness is not enough This is a great little article which is an excerpt from Martin Seligman’s  book Flourish It gives a great insight into why we shouldn’t really be aiming for “Happiness” but rather flourishing.

Raw Beauty – I loved this book. I saw Kemi Speak at “Imagine the Possibilities” in Echuca last year and read the book straight after. It’s not too over the top and is just really good guide to how to nourish yourself form the inside out!

Thanks for reading and please send through any questions you might have about avocados, farming or wellbeing as I’d love to answer them. And just to note, I’ll just be sharing things that have helped me and my experiences. But if you think you might be seriously depressed or suffering from anxiety then it’s definitely best to go and see your GP or you can even call Lifeline or the PANDA hot line. Everything I share here is just my experience and what’s worked for me and I hope you might find something for you.

 

Kx

 

 

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What’s with the “Bacon”?

 

So, I thought I’d give you a little bit of background about the Bacon avocados and I’ve made this little video for you so you can see how to tell when a Bacon is ready to eat. The Bacon avos aren’t really found in the supermarkets any more so I thought I’d give you a little bit of extra advice with how to handle them.

The Bacon are a bit of a “sensitive” variety of avocado. They have a thin skin and they don’t go black when they are ripe, so it’s a little bit harder to tell when they are ready. But don’t worry I am here to help!

As you probably now know, avocados don’t ripen until you pick them so there is no exact time frame to when they will be ready, but with practice it get’s easy to pick it.

When you get your Bacon avocados they will be very firm because they are just picked and because they are picked mid Winter, they take a bit longer to ripen than one of the summer varieties. This is basically because temperature is the biggest factor in ripening.

So expect the Bacon to take 2 weeks to ripen from when they arrive with you.

The Bacon need to be really soft all over and not just at the surface level, they need to be soft all the way through. So if one part feels soft but another feels hard, keep waiting! I know this can be excruciating but its well worth it.

So:

  1. Remember avos don’t ripen till they are picked!
  2. The Bacon will take around 2 weeks to ripen
  3. Bacon do not go black when ripe they stay bright green
  4. Don’t cut them too early, be patient! Wait until they are soft all over.

Oh and don’t forget if they all ripen at once just pop them in the fridge! The Bacon won’t last that long once they’re ripe!

Please let us know how you go with the Bacon, what do you think of the flavour and did you find this helpful for knowing when they were ready to eat?

For more articles like this, make sure you’re signed up here and if you missed out on the Bacon, dot worry – the Fuerte are ready so you can head to the shop and place your orders now!

Here’s my little video all about the Bacon – hope you enjoy it!

 

Thanks so much for watching and I’d love to hear if you have any more questions.

Katrina x

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